After going through a Michigan divorce, you may suddenly find yourself a single parent or needing to work more than ever. It can feel nearly impossible to find the time to develop any sort of social life so that you can meet new people. Thank goodness for the convenience of online dating.
Online dating eases the transition into being a singleton. It can be intimidating to figure out how to date again, especially in a modern age that now uses email, texting, Skype, and other technology to communicate with potential partners. While this can be a confusing realm in which to live for a little while, you’ll become accustomed to the particulars of online dating soon enough, and you’ll appreciate the convenience of being able to “scope out” a room without having to actually put yourself out there just yet. Here are five tips to help you begin dating again after divorce.
1. Make sure you’re ready.
Divorce can have you experiencing a range of emotions, from anger to joy, depression to complacency. Make sure you’re mentally prepared for the ups and downs of online dating before creating those profiles. You’re wading into murky waters that will be full of rejection, disappointment, and surprises.
2. Be honest.
Have you ever subtracted a few pounds from your weight or fibbed about your height or age? Online dating is rife with little white lies. It’s easy to embellish when you’re not really accountable for anything beyond the computer screen. But what happens when it’s time to meet someone in person? Or potentially begin building a relationship? Save yourself the agony of backpedaling later – tell the truth from the start, from your photos to your profile text.
3. Temper your expectations.
Most of the time, the people you’re meeting online are looking for a partner too, but you will run into daters who are only searching for a hook-up; you will meet people who will impress you online then be terribly unimpressive in person; you’ll email with a person who’s incredibly funny in writing but very dull face-to-face. Remember that dating online is not the same as dating in person so be prepared to get to know someone all over again no matter how much you’ve communicated before actually meeting.
4. Don’t be too picky.
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t have standards, but posting a list of 57 must-haves in a mate or noting every deal-breaker is a sure way to turn off anyone who may want to contact you. Your pickiness – about height, weight, age, and more – can be misinterpreted as high-maintenance or bitterness. Be open about who you are and what you want, but leave the door open for someone to surprise you.
5. Date safely.
Be smart about dating. Ladies, meet the man there, don’t let him pick you up. Gents, respect a woman’s desire to be tight-lipped about her address on the first date. And, above all, rely on Google. You can find out a lot about a person if you’re able to see their social media pages.