We know about the “dating” sites for those who are seeking to have an affair. And we know that sexting, hookup apps, and social media platforms have made it easy for people to connect with others in relatively quiet ways, even if they’re married to someone else. Technology has made it far easier for infidelity to occur. And even though everyone’s talking about infidelity, that doesn’t mean we’re all OK with the reality of it – clearly evidenced by the number of marriages that have ended because of an affair.
What Qualifies as Infidelity?
Some people might say that sexting is communication that happens between consenting adults. Unfortunately, it often occurs between two married adults who are not each other’s husband or wife. And that makes the sexting conversations anything but innocuous. A HuffPost/YouGov survey found that 85 percent of women and 74 percent of men consider sexting a form of cheating. This behavior is sometimes classified as emotional infidelity.
The Social Media Syndrome
It’s been proven that social media use decreases the quality of a marriage. Not only is it unhealthy for spouses to be more attached to their smartphone than their significant other, social media offers plenty of outlets to reconnect with old flames, or find new ones, if someone is so inclined. The thing to remember is that affairs happen by choice. Someone is, most likely, responding to or escaping from emotional issues of their own. You can blame social media, but that blame would be misdirected. Social media is merely a conduit for bad behavior.
Why Cheating Isn’t Cool
Dating sites that promote infidelity aren’t issuing a mea culpa about their role in imploding marriages either, claiming that they merely fill a void in the marketplace by connecting would-be adulterers with each other. In a society that has become tolerant of many things, in a culture that is all about full disclosure on reality TV and too much information from YouTube sensations, infidelity is still considered very uncool. Even though it’s far easier to find sex outside of marriage today thanks to technological innovations, that doesn’t mean people have become open-minded about cheating.
A study about America’s shifting attitudes toward sex found that while people have become more tolerant of premarital sex, adolescent sex, and same-sex sexual activity over the last 40 years, extramarital sex is still taboo. In fact, as it turns out, 4 percent of respondents said cheating was OK in 1973, but only 1 percent of people had the same opinion in 2012. The acceptance of this behavior has dropped to almost 100 percent unacceptable.
Michigan is considered a no-fault divorce state, but if infidelity has ended your marriage, that can still come into play in your divorce settlement. Contact Femminineo Attorneys in Mt. Clemens, MI, to schedule your no-cost initial interview today and discuss how to proceed with your divorce.