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No matter how much you want your divorce or imagine a better life for yourself after your split, loneliness is bound to occur. You may be surprised when this feeling kicks in – it may happen at the most inconvenient and surprising times, in the...
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loneliness after michigan divorceNo matter how much you want your divorce or imagine a better life for yourself after your split, loneliness is bound to occur. You may be surprised when this feeling kicks in – it may happen at the most inconvenient and surprising times, in the presence of others or when you’re completely on your own. Coping with the loneliness in a Michigan divorce takes time, a support system, and the presence of mind to recognize the feeling you’re experiencing so you can deal with it head-on.

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Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda

If you have children, there will be times that they are with your former spouse and not with you. And some of these moments could be on the holidays when nostalgia and loneliness can feel incredibly strong even in the best of times. You may think about all the things you “should” be doing together as a family or “would” be doing together if you hadn’t divorced. Torturing yourself and stressing yourself out in this way only feeds the loneliness.

Loneliness also makes the smallest to the biggest challenges of life seem insurmountable. The bills you have to pay. The house cleaning you need to do. The health problems a family member is facing. It’s hard to be positive or find the silver lining when you’re feeling alone. Loneliness can shoot holes in your self-esteem too. For example, if you divorced because of your ex’s infidelity, you can feel unworthy and unwanted. You can think of all the ways you “could” have changed the course of your life, but the past is the past and the present is the present. You did not create your loneliness, but you can impact whether or not the feeling continues.

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Identify Your Loneliness

You don’t have to be completely without company to feel loneliness. You may be surrounded by family and friends, but feel lonely anyway. This is a common occurrence for divorced people who want intimate companionship, who want a partner to share their worries and happiness alike.

Being divorced means you no longer have someone to commiserate with where the kids are concerned. You don’t have that person you can look at across the dinner table and knowingly appreciate a comment your child just made, or laugh at each other about the discipline you just tried to dish out with a straight face.

But being single and being alone are two different things. Yes, you’re in the throes of a divorce and are no longer part of a couple, but that doesn’t mean you are alone. Make smart choices about who you are spending time with and what you’re doing so that you don’t contribute to the feelings of loneliness you desperately want to avoid.

Social media can be a mood boost when you want to connect with people who aren’t right beside you, but spending hours trolling your feeds and making yourself feel bad about the family photos and fun that other people are posting is a certain road to loneliness. Comparing yourself to others will only make you feel more isolated, and infinitely less happy.

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Live in the Loneliness

Loneliness is an experience, not just a state of being, and sometimes you simply must “be” with the loneliness to get past it. If you are booking every minute of every day so you’re constantly busy and distracted from the shambles you feel your life is in, the moment you do find yourself alone or not busy, the loneliness will hit you even harder.

Budget time to feel all the feels, and force yourself to keep the appointment. Go ahead and cry the tears you’ve been holding back for the sake of the kids or your own confidence. Set a timer if you must so you know that there will be an end to how you’re feeling. It’s ok to give yourself a certain amount of time to feel the overwhelming emotions that you’ve been keeping at bay. The mistake is to constantly try to hide from these feelings. It will be that much harder to cope with your divorce when your loneliness hits you without warning and without your permission.

Loneliness is a temporary part of divorce. It helps to have a Michigan divorce attorney you can trust, especially in the times of lonely self-doubt and legal confusion. Contact Femminineo Attorneys in Mt. Clemens to schedule your free initial interview and discuss your divorce.

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What makes us the right divorce attorneys for you?

  • Family Law Expertise

    Most lawyers are in a general practice and do some of everything. One of our main focuses is on Family law and being expert at divorce, custody and support matters.

  • Strong Relationships

    We are in court daily, working with the family court judges, their staff and clerks, the Friend of the Court office, the Bar Association and other attorneys working in this area. We pride ourselves on fighting hard for our clients while working well with everyone.

  • Experience

    Our extensive experience and strong relationship with the courts and our peers leads many judges and attorneys to hire us to act as Mediators in other Family Law cases. Make no mistake; having a strong working relationship with the court can have a massive impact on your case. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and are in trial regularly against the best in the business. We see the judges every week and maintain strong ties with their staff.

  • We Care

    Although every attorney can “handle” your case, Femminineo Attorneys cares about you and your family. We work extremely hard to keep this difficult process civil and to shelter your children from as much of the negative facets as possible.

  • Commitment

    Once your case is concluded, we will be there to help you with any post-judgment problems that may arise.

  • Flexibility

    Everyone’s financial situation is different and we work with our clients to formulate a fee arrangement that works within your means.

  • Effectiveness

    We have handled every possible situation involving domestic law. We will do everything possible to wrap up your case in a timely manner, avoiding delays that cause unnecessary legal fees.

  • Tenacity

    When your case cannot be easily solved, we will fight hard and use all of our resources to win. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and we regularly win cases against the best in the business at trial.

  • Expert Staff

    Unlike many attorneys who have a part-time typist and work 30 hours a week, we have an expert staff available all day long to assist you and provide immediate service. We are available to our clients 24 hours a day through our hot line at 586-854-3654.

  • Personal Service

    At Femminineo Attorneys, your case will be handled by an experienced family law attorney. Each of our attorneys in our family law division has many years of experience in handling family law matters.

We encourage you to see these differences for yourself and call today to speak with one of our partners or schedule a free consultation at our office.

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