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August 3, 2015
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Cyberstalking after divorceFor some people, the ability to check up on their former spouse’s new life is too tempting to ignore. They compulsively check Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, personal blogs, and any other social media where they might find out information about the once-love of their life. They may even stalk mutual (or once mutual) friends to see if a photo or clue about their ex pops up for them to obsess over. Sound familiar? 

You may have successfully maneuvered your way through the legalities of the divorce process, but there are plenty of other ties that need to be cut at the end of a marriage. Maintaining links with each other online can create a false sense of connection and interfere with the necessary healing process post-divorce.

Admit Your Weakness

It can be particularly tempting to stalk your ex when they’ve blacklisted you from their online presence entirely. They’ve blocked you on Facebook. They’ve blocked your friends and family. That means you can’t even see if they exist anymore, at least on that one site. But this move can turn some people into amateur sleuths, skulking around the internet looking for signs of life. Are you prepared for what you might find? Will it really help you to know that they’re dating again or that they got a dog, a haircut, or a new car?

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Let Logic Win

You are divorced. You have separated your life from another person. It’s time to start anew. It’s essential to accept these facts so you don’t hinder your healing process. No matter how necessary your divorce was, you have some regrouping to do, and neglecting to break up with your ex online – and their entire social network as well – will only complicate your ability to move on. One study found that you cause yourself more psychological distress the more time you spend on your ex’s Facebook page after your split.

Protect Yourself

Your real friends won’t use Facebook to communicate with you about your divorce; acquaintances however, will use their social media connection with you merely to rustle up some intel. You may be desperate to connect with people, but rely on the network of trusted friends and family who will answer your texts and phone calls and see you in person. Leave cyberspace behind for a while. You’ll be less tempted to stalk and can protect yourself from gossipmongers too.

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Purge Your Photos

You undoubtedly have photos of you and your former spouse online and on your phone. Delete. If you can’t make the ultimate cut, at least save them somewhere that makes it more tedious to get to them every time you want to scroll through photo memories. If you can’t delete a pic from a social media account because it belongs to someone else, simply untag yourself.

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Just Say No

In some cases, you simply have to cut yourself off from social media entirely. If you find you can’t stop cyberstalking your ex, it’s time to delete social media apps from your phone or suspend your account for a while. You’ll have more free time. More room to let your heart and mind heal. And you won’t be inundated with the happy relationship photos and updates of friends and acquaintances – comparing your life to others’ isn’t healthy either. And Facebook and its ilk can be a rabbit hole that syphons away your self-worth and inflates your regrets. Your hiatus doesn’t have to be permanent, and your self-imposed banishment will likely be accompanied by some withdrawal, but you’ll be healthier emotionally for saying no to social media.

When You Just Can’t Quit Cyberstalking

For divorced couples with children, it can be a little more complicated extricating yourself from social media. You want to see what your ex is doing with your kids, and you know they’re going to post every photo of their activities online. Can you stop them? Maybe. Talk to your divorce attorney about what you’re OK with post-divorce when it comes to your children and your former partner. Social media is a relevant element in divorces – it’s become one of the biggest sources of evidence in divorce cases – even serving as the root cause for some of them. It’s possible to set down rules about online behavior as part of your divorce settlement.

Give yourself permission to move on with your life. Plus, remember to keep your own divorce grievances offline. Contact Femminineo Attorneys in Mt. Clemens, MI, to schedule your no-cost initial interview today and ask all the social media questions you need to make sure your divorce is fair and final.

What makes us the right divorce attorneys for you?

Family Law Expertise

Most lawyers are in a general practice and do some of everything. One of our main focuses is on Family law and being expert at divorce, custody and support matters.

Strong Relationships

We are in court daily, working with the family court judges, their staff and clerks, the Friend of the Court office, the Bar Association and other attorneys working in this area. We pride ourselves on fighting hard for our clients while working well with everyone.

Experience

Our extensive experience and strong relationship with the courts and our peers leads many judges and attorneys to hire us to act as Mediators in other Family Law cases. Make no mistake; having a strong working relationship with the court can have a massive impact on your case. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and are in trial regularly against the best in the business. We see the judges every week and maintain strong ties with their staff.

We Care

Although every attorney can “handle” your case, Femminineo Attorneys cares about you and your family. We work extremely hard to keep this difficult process civil and to shelter your children from as much of the negative facets as possible.

Commitment

Once your case is concluded, we will be there to help you with any post-judgment problems that may arise.

Flexibility

Everyone’s financial situation is different and we work with our clients to formulate a fee arrangement that works within your means.

Effectiveness

We have handled every possible situation involving domestic law. We will do everything possible to wrap up your case in a timely manner, avoiding delays that cause unnecessary legal fees.

Tenacity

When your case cannot be easily solved, we will fight hard and use all of our resources to win. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and we regularly win cases against the best in the business at trial.

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Unlike many attorneys who have a part-time typist and work 30 hours a week, we have an expert staff available all day long to assist you and provide immediate service. We are available to our clients 24 hours a day through our hot line at 586-854-3654.

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At Femminineo Attorneys, your case will be handled by an experienced family law attorney. Each of our attorneys in our family law division has many years of experience in handling family law matters.

We encourage you to see these differences for yourself and call today to speak with one of our partners or schedule a free consultation at our office.

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