Divorce, in general, is considered a bummer. Research shows that most divorced couples have lower levels of happiness and greater levels of mental distress than married couples. While divorce can create new conflicts like fights over parenting time and child support payments, splitting up also means that everything that wasn’t right in your marriage is no longer present. To many divorced people, that makes their split absolutely worth it.
Here are just some of the reasons divorced people are happy to be single.
1. Carpe Diem, Baby
Have you wanted to take a class, join the gym, make new friends, try a hole-in-the-wall restaurant? No matter what you want to do, there is no one holding you back. Your spouse can’t dissent and you’ll have unexpected free time on your hands if you have joint custody of the kids. Now is your time to do exactly what you want when you want.
2. Get Better Sleep
If you and your ex shared a bed, you may feel a little odd at first sleeping alone. Chances are, you’ll get used to the solitary nature of bedtime quickly when you discover how well you sleep by yourself. You can sleep in the middle of the bed and the only person you’re hogging the covers from is yourself. No overheating, snoring, or different sleep times and wake times. Enjoy the rest.
3. Spend Your Money
When you’re single, you manage your own budget and money. Most of all, you don’t have to clear any purchases with your significant other. Whatever you want to buy, however frivolous or necessary, is on you. Money woes are a major element of many failed marriages, and by getting a divorce you eliminate fights for permission or agreement.
4. No More Nagging
Couples on their way to a divorce have fights – at least, most of them do. Nitpicking and nagging and snide remarks are commonplace, and that can chip away at self-esteem, energy, and patience. Once you’ve split with your ex, you may consider their absence a hole in your life… or a beautiful space to fill exactly the way you want. No more voice in your head telling you what to do or what you’ve done wrong. Now it’s blissful silence, and there’s something to be said for quiet.
5. Live How You Want
Want the house to be cold all the time? Want to leave dirty dishes in the sink? Want to finally get a pet? Want to buy the junk food you love best? There is no one to tell you no anymore when you are single. Marriage is about compromise and living the lives you want, together. When that doesn’t work out, divorce is about living the life you want, on your own. Divorced people embrace the freedom.
6. No More In-Laws
Some people can’t stand their in-laws. If you fall into this category, congratulations – divorce means you really never have to engage with them ever again. It’s your ex’s problem now to deal with his or her parents. Your obligations end when the marriage comes to an end.
Learn More About a Michigan Divorce
Divorce can be a good thing. Many relationships aren’t meant to go the distance and many people are happier when they finally break free from a stifling, unhappy union. If you are considering a Michigan divorce, schedule a consultation with the experts at Femminineo Attorneys.