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Cold Feet Before MarriagePlenty of engagements hit the skids when one or both halves of a couple get cold feet. But there are also plenty of marriages that happen even when one or both partners have major doubts about the solidity or longevity of their union. Sure, cold feet can often be chalked up to nerves about the wedding day, but pre-wedding jitters often warn of marital troubles ahead.

A study conducted at UCLA and published in the Journal of Family Psychology interviewed newlyweds in their first marriages, asking whether they had “ever been uncertain or hesitant about getting married” after getting engaged. After this initial information gathering, the researchers followed up with the couples every six months for the first four years of their marriages.

Turns out, premarital doubts did predict divorce rates four years later, especially when the doubtful partner was the wife.

Living together first? Your marriage is more likely to last >>

Brides with Doubts

Premarital uncertainty was common in this study. In two-thirds of couples, one or both partners had doubts, more common among men (47 percent) than women (38 percent). And the doubts did indeed predict marital outcomes 48 months later. When wives had the jitters, 19 percent of couples were divorced within four years. When wives were not unsure, only 8 percent of couples ended up divorced.

Surprisingly, among the couples who didn’t divorce, the doubts of both parties predicted less satisfying marriages. So some couples are simply staying together even though they’re miserable? It would seem so. And as painful as divorce can be, just sticking it out in a marriage because you said you would certainly isn’t a recipe for happiness. Lower marital satisfaction among men and women with doubts could have been avoided – if they’d listened to the warning signs before walking down the aisle.

Study says: Not getting a divorce could kill you >>

Run, Run, Run Away?

The idea of a runaway bride isn’t such a silly conceit. Though it may cause plenty of difficulty in the present moment, turning tail and sprinting the other way down the aisle can help couples avoid divorce in the future. Divorce isn’t an easy road, but neither is marriage, and neither should be taken lightly.

While this study does show that cold feet can be an indicator of divorce, it doesn’t mean that’s the inevitability for every couple who pauses for a moment before saying their vows. A feeling of cold feet also doesn’t mean that couples need to break up before marrying, but the worries certainly shouldn’t be ignored. Doubts are a sign that something is off – so take the time to have some conversations with your spouse-to-be. Ask the tough questions of each other, dig deep into the same old arguments you always have to see if they’re surmountable.

If you can’t examine your relationship or address lingering doubts on your own, it’s perfectly fine to seek out professional help. Couples therapy works before, during, and after divorce. But, ideally, you won’t have to get to the divorce part because you’ll have found a way to be married happily, or have agreed to go your separate ways.

Marriage isn’t a romantic comedy. And happily ever after isn’t a guarantee. If you are at the end of your marriage, contact Femminineo Attorneys in Mt. Clemens, MI, to schedule your no-cost initial interview and get the divorce advice and help you need.

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Family Law Expertise

Most lawyers are in a general practice and do some of everything. One of our main focuses is on Family law and being expert at divorce, custody and support matters.

Strong Relationships

We are in court daily, working with the family court judges, their staff and clerks, the Friend of the Court office, the Bar Association and other attorneys working in this area. We pride ourselves on fighting hard for our clients while working well with everyone.

Experience

Our extensive experience and strong relationship with the courts and our peers leads many judges and attorneys to hire us to act as Mediators in other Family Law cases. Make no mistake; having a strong working relationship with the court can have a massive impact on your case. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and are in trial regularly against the best in the business. We see the judges every week and maintain strong ties with their staff.

We Care

Although every attorney can “handle” your case, Femminineo Attorneys cares about you and your family. We work extremely hard to keep this difficult process civil and to shelter your children from as much of the negative facets as possible.

Commitment

Once your case is concluded, we will be there to help you with any post-judgment problems that may arise.

Flexibility

Everyone’s financial situation is different and we work with our clients to formulate a fee arrangement that works within your means.

Effectiveness

We have handled every possible situation involving domestic law. We will do everything possible to wrap up your case in a timely manner, avoiding delays that cause unnecessary legal fees.

Tenacity

When your case cannot be easily solved, we will fight hard and use all of our resources to win. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and we regularly win cases against the best in the business at trial.

Expert Staff

Unlike many attorneys who have a part-time typist and work 30 hours a week, we have an expert staff available all day long to assist you and provide immediate service.

Personal Service

At Femminineo Attorneys, your case will be handled by an experienced family law attorney. Each of our attorneys in our family law division has many years of experience in handling family law matters.

We encourage you to see these differences for yourself and call today to speak with one of our partners or schedule a free consultation at our office.

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