Resolutions are easy to make but they can be hard to keep, especially when you’re going through a Michigan divorce. Instead of pressuring yourself to get everything right in January or while you’re navigating the minefields of your split, consider these divorce resolutions to make any time of year.
1. Be Respectful
Being respectful is not only about treating your ex with respect but respecting yourself. What do you need? What are you willing to give up? Honor your own goals and don’t give in just to make divorce easier. (Ideally, you don’t have a divorce attorney who would even allow this.) Whether you and your ex have parted amicable or contentiously, this edict is one that takes guts to follow – but you can do it, and your divorce will be all the better for it.
2. Co-Parent Kindly
Raising children is a challenge in the healthiest relationships. Add divorce to the mix and child-rearing becomes exponentially more complicated. Do your best to establish and maintain cooperation. Make a pact with your ex to be flexible and accommodating when it comes to child custody and parenting time, all in the best interests of your children. When it comes to the parenting part of divorce, this is not the time to let spite win.
3. Nurture Patience
Divorce is not a speedy endeavor. It can take months to complete a divorce, longer if there are children in the picture. Attempting a do-it-yourself divorce may seem like the best way to expedite the process, but there is far too much room for error when you DIY, and that will make your divorce take even longer than if you had worked with a divorce lawyer to begin with.
4. Take Care of Yourself
It is far too easy to take your own health and wellness for granted as you wade through the divorce process. You may skip doctor or dental visits to avoid the copay. Exercise may be put on the back burner. You may not eat well. A highly recommended divorce resolution is to take care of yourself, even amid the chaos that is a Michigan divorce, even if you have kids, even if you’re working full time and very busy and dealing with a volatile ex. Take care of yourself so you can take care of business.
5. Ask for Help
If you’re an independent person or a private person who doesn’t see the need of involving more people than necessary in the details of your divorce, it can be easy to ask for the help you need. It’s true, though, that you need a village, and there is no time more fraught with emotions than a divorce when you can really use all the support you can get, whether you have kids or not, but especially if you do. Take people up on their offers to help, and be good to yourself.
Have questions about a Michigan divorce? Make a divorce resolution to contact Michigan Divorce Help, PLLC in Macomb to discuss your case.