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blended family michigan divorce lawyer femminineo attorneysThe Brady Bunch showed the innocent ups and downs of children in a blended family. Divorced mom, widowed dad, a new family of eight, plus a flighty housekeeper and a large pet. This combo made for interesting, wholesome TV but, in real life, a blended family – beautiful as it may be – is a challenge.

Causes of Stress in a Blended Family

The divorce rate for a first marriage maintains its position right around the 50 percent mark. That means there are plenty of people entering second marriages and cohabitation. Whether you legally wed someone again or just live together, everyone brings to a new relationship their own unique “baggage.” For many, this baggage is children.

Second marriages are difficult and the divorce rate among them is high. Dealing with stepchildren can complicate matters, as navigating the waters of parenting someone else’s children is a minefield, for you, the kids, and your new spouse.

Here are just some of the difficulties blended families face as they merge their lives and take on new roles:

  1. Divided loyalties: Most kids are fiercely loyal to their parents. After a divorce, mom and dad will still be #1, but what happens when there is a stepparent in the mix? A child may love them but feel guilty about it. Another child may be inclined to rebel or do all he or she can to hate the new person, refuse to bond, or nurse jealousy or resentment. Then there are the exes who feed their kids with negative stuff to pit them against their new stepparent.
  2. Stepsiblings: Stepsiblings don’t always get along, even though they’re in the same boat. Depending on the reestablished living arrangements, there may be a new school to acclimate to, a different home, and a new neighborhood. Some stepsiblings find joy in each other, while just as many butt heads, causing grief and strain within the home.
  3. Discipline: “You’re not my mom!” “You’re not my dad!” Blended households echo with statements like these, especially when the blending isn’t going smoothly. Quite often, stepparents unintentionally favor their biological children and clash with their stepchildren when it come to rules. Or, they may be more lenient to gain favor. These dynamics drive a wedge between stepparent and stepchild, but also between parent and biological child and the newlyweds.
  4. A new baby: Some couples who have blended their families choose to unite the entire crew by having a baby of their own. This move can help some children bond knowing they truly share something now, while other kids may see this new child as an intrusion who is taking their place or who symbolizes the new relationship, disregarding all that happened in the past.
  5. The in-laws: If your former in-laws are involved grandparents, they will want to maintain an active role in your kids’ lives. Then there are the new grandparents who have entered the mix. A child in a blended home can end up with eight grandparents or more, though some may not embrace your kids as much as you might like, or they may welcome them into the family a little too heartily for your taste. Managing the expectations of extended family is just one more challenge for a blended home.

Making a Blended Family Work

It may seem like creating a harmonious blended family is almost impossible, but it’s not. Couples who actively prepare for stepparent roles have greater success in their relationship. They know the merging of two families is going to be a challenge, and they’re prepared to face it head-on.

Just because you’re in love with a new person, that doesn’t mean these feelings will be enough to hold a blended family together. Preparation is key. And, it is not guaranteed that everything will eventually iron itself out in a blended family. If you find yourself facing child custody challenges, paternity questions, or another Michigan divorce, contact Femminineo Attorneys PLLC in Mount Clemens for support.

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  • Family Law Expertise

    Most lawyers are in a general practice and do some of everything. One of our main focuses is on Family law and being expert at divorce, custody and support matters.

  • Strong Relationships

    We are in court daily, working with the family court judges, their staff and clerks, the Friend of the Court office, the Bar Association and other attorneys working in this area. We pride ourselves on fighting hard for our clients while working well with everyone.

  • Experience

    Our extensive experience and strong relationship with the courts and our peers leads many judges and attorneys to hire us to act as Mediators in other Family Law cases. Make no mistake; having a strong working relationship with the court can have a massive impact on your case. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and are in trial regularly against the best in the business. We see the judges every week and maintain strong ties with their staff.

  • We Care

    Although every attorney can “handle” your case, Femminineo Attorneys cares about you and your family. We work extremely hard to keep this difficult process civil and to shelter your children from as much of the negative facets as possible.

  • Commitment

    Once your case is concluded, we will be there to help you with any post-judgment problems that may arise.

  • Flexibility

    Everyone’s financial situation is different and we work with our clients to formulate a fee arrangement that works within your means.

  • Effectiveness

    We have handled every possible situation involving domestic law. We will do everything possible to wrap up your case in a timely manner, avoiding delays that cause unnecessary legal fees.

  • Tenacity

    When your case cannot be easily solved, we will fight hard and use all of our resources to win. Unlike most attorneys, we have no fear of the court room and we regularly win cases against the best in the business at trial.

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    Unlike many attorneys who have a part-time typist and work 30 hours a week, we have an expert staff available all day long to assist you and provide immediate service. We are available to our clients 24 hours a day through our hot line at 586-854-3654.

  • Personal Service

    At Femminineo Attorneys, your case will be handled by an experienced family law attorney. Each of our attorneys in our family law division has many years of experience in handling family law matters.

We encourage you to see these differences for yourself and call today to speak with one of our partners or schedule a free consultation at our office.

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