Some people feel stuck, stranded, or sidelined after a Michigan divorce. Eventually, however, you will feel free – free from marital discord, unhappiness, stress, and loneliness. You may not be able to make the feeling of liberation speed up, but thinking positive is one way to get started. Might sound impossible now, but you will get there.
The feeling of freedom will come and go throughout your divorce and afterward, but trust that the perks will be there eventually.
If your marriage was fraught with tension and arguments, you may not have realized just how much time you were devoting to the negativity. Being mired down in unhappiness can be unmotivating, which means you’re less likely to achieve everything you want. Now you have time to be free to do, say, watch, and go wherever you want.
Plus, if you have kids and share joint custody with your ex, your parenting time will come into play and you’ll find yourself sans children on some weeks and weekends. And then you’ll really be free to do as you please all hours of the day and night. It may be lonely and sad at the start when your children aren’t around all the time, but you’ll very likely get used to the reprieve, and appreciate your new family unit even more when you’re reunited.
Freedom to be confident.
When you’re going through a divorce, even a divorce that is wanted and necessary, it can put a major dent in your confidence. Here is what you will soon realize: You got through this divorce, and you’ve come out on the other side. You will have scars and sadness from time to time, but you’ve survived. And knowing just how much you’ve achieved and how you’ve kept yourself in one piece through all the struggle will give you confidence and strength. That is true freedom.
Freedom to speak.
In an unhappy marriage, you may have kept your mouth shut a lot for the sake of peace, for the sake of the kids, for the sake of your own sanity. Now, however, you are free to say whatever you want and you’ll feel right about doing so.
For some people, a Michigan divorce lights a fire under them and gives them the freedom to speak up, speak out, and make their feelings known. If you can weather a divorce, you can deal with just about anything – and if you don’t want to deal with it, then you’ll probably feel perfectly comfortable saying so.
Freedom to be better.
When you’re stuck in a fractured union, there are many things in your life that can suffer: your relationship with your children and family, work performance, fitness, self-esteem. Ridding your life of the toxicity that has prevented you from being the best person you can be is so freeing.
You won’t have someone nagging you because of the parenting choices you’ve made – you can make it and hold yourself accountable. You won’t damage your ability to be professionally successful because you’re distracted by a bad marriage or always in a negative place.
Freedom to live.
Life during and after divorce will not be perfect, but there will be upsides, good moments, and eventually contentment in the new world you have drawn for yourself – because it will be your world, the world you have chosen freely.
If you are ready to file for divorce or have questions about divorce, schedule your free consultation with a Michigan divorce lawyer at Femminineo Attorneys in Macomb. Contact us to schedule your appointment.